Actor thinks it's best to be honest
Sunday, 6 July 2008
Will Smith reckons it’s healthy to fancy other people when you're married and has no qualms telling his wife when he does.
The actor – who tied the knot with Jada Pinkett Smith 11 years ago – is determined to be honest about how he feels.
‘Our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural and you’re going to be attracted to people,’ Will explains.
‘So sometimes we have the discussion: “Wow, this or that girl is freaking gorgeous”. I’m not going to say anything to my buddies that’s any different than what I say to my wife.’
And Will, 39, reckons he'll tell Jada - and she'll tell him - if they ever find they can't resist their desire.
'If it came down to it, then one would say to the other: "Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now I’m not going to do it if you don’t approve of it,"’ he says.
'In our marriage vows, we didn't say "forsaking all others". We said, "You will never hear I did something afterwards". Because if that happens, the relationship is destroyed.'
But Will's not sure what he'd do if one day Jada, 38, confides that she does want to take a lover.
‘I don’t know how I’d feel,’ he confesses. ‘But I know I would react better than if I found out about it afterwards.’
The devoted couple are mum and dad to son Jayden, 10, and daughter Willow, 8.
Will - who is currently starring in Hancock with Charlize Theron - is also dad to son Willard from his first marriage.
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The marriage convenant was instituted by God. God did not intend for a husband and a wife to contaminate the holiness of a marriage with sexual immorality. Yes, I know, people say we do what we want. That may sound all well and good, but as in the day of Noah, when people were drinking, partying, sexing, seeking riches, and doing other things than seeking the things of God...God destroyed the earth. Daily our flesh and spirit man war with one another...but we all have to answer to the Almighty God and woe to this generation. Romans 1:21-28
Marriage is NOT a covenant from "God". Marriage is nothing more than a contract. That's what it is. Injecting some invisible sky fairy who magically grants wishes if you beg it hard enough into the equation is just human stupidity. Good on them if open policy works for em.
I just got finished listening to Hot 93.7 in Connecticut. Dj. Buck and Nancy had some choice words about this article. Long story short... No way in hell could Will ever of had this discussion in one of our tabloids. It would create a fire storm. He and wifey are seen as one of Hollywood's "Power Couples" and this insinuation would only diminish their status and image. Yes, honesty is the best policy - in any kind of marriage, I just wouldn't test it in mine. Will 'n Jada, Swingers? Nah. Not likely!
There have been many rumors floating about for years that Mr. & Mrs. Smith have had an open marriage. It is not my place to judge someone else's lifestyle choices regardless if the rumors are true or not. It is not the worst thing in the world if they do live in this manner: I personally would not do so. Will Smith is very intelligent which often is reflected in his frank honesty about a variety of issues. I do believe that complete honesty is critical in order to have a happy marriage. Once either or both individuals in a marriage start to withhold critical information, the seeds of mistrust and potentially, infidelity, are planted. Is it better to be open about attractions and affairs? I think that on the surface it seems, intellectually, that it may make sense. However, there is an emotional component that has a habit of rearing its head when a couple is in the midst of infidelity. Also, there is an issue of how the children of a marriage in which open infidelity exists may be affected emotionally and psychologically once they become aware of their parents' choice. There is a reason why most religions do not condone adultery. I believe that we are programmed, on some level, not to believe or feel that sharing our intimate emotional and physical experiences with someone other than our spouse is the right thing to do. However, there are many people who do not share the aforementioned beliefs and choose to live an alternative lifestyle. It would be very naive of me to assume that those who openly profess disapproval of an open marriage to be themselves totally faithful to their spouses. The fact remains that infidelity is rampant despite all of the potholes and stop signs warning us all to proceed with caution. My test is simple: 1. Would you want to see your Grand parent, mother or daughter in an adulterous relationship? 2. Would you be totally comfortable, right now, to have all of your sexual exploits published in a major newspaper? 3. If questioned by your child (any age), how would you explain that you were involved sexually with someone other than your spouse? If you could do the above three things and not get that knot feeling in your stomach, then perhaps you are true to your beliefs about having relationships outside of the marriage. However, if you would feel regret, perhaps you should rethink your beliefs.
I have seen agreements like this before and it always seems like it's the guy who takes advantage of the agreement while the woman stays home, content to just be there. I was in a similar relationship and I couldn't handle it. Good for them that they can. And get a life with your religion crap, MissBrown. In Biblical times, women weren't much more than chattle. They stayed home and had babies. If they couldn't conceive, the husband would just bang her mother or her sister. Get off your sanctimonious horse.
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