Actor thinks it's best to be honest
Sunday, 6 July 2008
Will Smith reckons it’s healthy to fancy other people when you're married and has no qualms telling his wife when he does.
The actor – who tied the knot with Jada Pinkett Smith 11 years ago – is determined to be honest about how he feels.
‘Our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural and you’re going to be attracted to people,’ Will explains.
‘So sometimes we have the discussion: “Wow, this or that girl is freaking gorgeous”. I’m not going to say anything to my buddies that’s any different than what I say to my wife.’
And Will, 39, reckons he'll tell Jada - and she'll tell him - if they ever find they can't resist their desire.
'If it came down to it, then one would say to the other: "Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now I’m not going to do it if you don’t approve of it,"’ he says.
'In our marriage vows, we didn't say "forsaking all others". We said, "You will never hear I did something afterwards". Because if that happens, the relationship is destroyed.'
But Will's not sure what he'd do if one day Jada, 38, confides that she does want to take a lover.
‘I don’t know how I’d feel,’ he confesses. ‘But I know I would react better than if I found out about it afterwards.’
The devoted couple are mum and dad to son Jayden, 10, and daughter Willow, 8.
Will - who is currently starring in Hancock with Charlize Theron - is also dad to son Willard from his first marriage.
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Look I am married, but before I was married I was a lover of beautiful women, and guess what? that hasn't changed. This is my second marriage and I vowed that I need someone who I can be open with. If I see a beautiful woman I won't gawk at her, but yes i do let my wife know if I see someone that is attractive, sometimes I catch her looking at guys, she told me the other day some guy was so cute he gave her hot flashes. I don't see anything wrong with it, the problem comes from folks who have never been married, saying what they think marriage should be, but they need to live a little longer go through some trials and tribulations, to realize what's important. Also if I meet a woman and we have a conversation, I have no qualms about saying I am married, now if something happens it won't be based on a lie, and I am not leaving my wife for anyone.
It appears that the marriage is only open for him. If he doesn't know how he would feel if Jada wants to step out. Seems like a one way door to me.
I think that Will and Jada are a beautiful hollywood couple. I personally would not like an open marriage situation but if it is working for them, so be it. At least they are both honest about thier feelings.
I agree with you.I'm not married because of my open mindness.It works for me.I am honest ,upfront and SAFE.
Human sexuality is fluid, and ever changing. Denying that we feel physical attractions, but are taught shame and fear. That instead of sharing more love w/ others in our lives, we have to lock it away in a box and say "you can't have that love... that's only for my wife". People can love more than one of their children at one time, right? Then why is it such a leap of logic to consider loving others in similar ways as we do our spouse or partner? One reason. Fear.
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